by Niall Doherty

A friend once told me how she wanted nothing more out of life than to find a great partner and settle down. I asked her to tell me what her dream guy would be like. She listed off a few things. Among them: he’d have to be adventurous, and he’d have to believe in her.

When she was done, I asked her, as delicately as possible, why such a dreamboat would be interested in her?

She was kinda stumped by that.

I noted that my friend desired an adventurous man, but she wasn’t very adventurous herself. For the longest time she’d been longing to go to Africa and do some volunteer work but was terrified of leaving the cozy confines of her home town. She wanted a partner who believed in her, but it seemed she didn’t really believe in herself.

Call me crazy, but methinks my friend would have a much better chance of finding her dream guy if she stopped waiting for him to come along and save her from a mediocre life, and instead got busy chasing some adventure and building her character.

What do you look for in a partner?

List out a few things, then ask yourself if you’re worthy of such a person. Why would a guy or girl that fantastic be interested in you?

If you struggle with that question, I suggest you get busy living a bigger and better life. Then the answers come easy.