by Niall Doherty

A quick post today as I’m busy kicking back on a tropical island in Cambodia. I want to write a bit about limiting beliefs. Not overcoming them, but the prerequisite to overcoming them: recognition.

It’s pretty much impossible to overcome a limiting belief you don’t know you have. You need to become aware of it first. How do you do that? How do you recognize your own blind spots?

Two things that have helped me:

  • Reading a lot about other people. You catch on to many things they do and ways they think that never occured to you.
  • Spending time with people who are ahead of you in areas you wish to improve. You’ll find their mindset is usually a bit (or a lot) more advanced than yours and you’ll start to absorb it just by being around them.

One limiting belief that’s become extremely apparent to me in recent months goes like this: If I don’t work hard for something, I don’t deserve it. (This is limiting because I end up blocking a lot of good things from coming into my life, just because I feel I haven’t earned them directly.)

How did I recognize this belief? Mostly by reading about and hanging out with people who have a healthier sense of entitlement than I do, and seeing all the good things that flow into their lives on account of that.

See if you can recognize a limiting belief of your own. Awareness is enough to start. We’ll talk about the overcoming bit some other time.

P.S. It’s my birthday tomorrow (Saturday), and to celebrate I’m giving away five copies of an excellent book I just read: The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. Every woman should read this book, and sure feck it, every man should, too. It basically trains up your intuition so you know how to better deal with unreasonable people and how to avoid violent situations. To be in with a chance of winning one of the copies I’m giving away, tell me in the comments about a limiting belief you’ve recognized yourself, and how you became aware of it.