January 16th – January 31st, 2018
It’s funny: I paid $1000 for this coaching call, and she’s pointing me in a direction I already knew, in the back of my mind, I needed to go. If I’d paid her nothing and she’d given me this advice free of charge, I’d probably have dismissed it, kept on doing what I’m doing. But since I invested so much her advice takes on an extra weight, and I’m no doubt going to take it.
Bulgarian dentist. The price is low and there’s no waiting room – he invites you in and sits you in a corner while he finishes with another patient in the chair a few feet away. And he says words like “arsenic” and “nerve extractor.” But hey, he came recommended, he seems like a good guy, and my teeth aren’t going to magically fix themselves.
First day snowboarding! Except it’s not, because there are gale force winds and all the lifts are closed. But it’s probably just as well. Turns out I need a down day, after being all go and very little rest since the start of the year. Plenty of duvet time and snuggles and a couple of movies was a perfect Plan B.
Snowboarding has me thinking how success in the modern world often requires you to go against your natural instinct. When flying down a snowy hill, for example, your instinct is to lean back, but that doesn’t do you any favors. Leaning forward gives you more control. So those people who say you should always listen to your heart/gut/intuition… don’t listen to those people.
It’ll be two years at the end of this month since I launched 3M1K. It’s generated close to $50,000 in revenue since then, and helped a lot of people. But once the end of the month comes, I’ll be closing the doors for at least three months. Time to turn focus back to my own freelance business, take that to the next level.
We got three inches of snow in Bansko today. And you can’t go outside without getting all wrapped up. But I’m enjoying it here. It’s long been a goal of mine to spend a few weeks on a white mountain, alternating work and play. Cold weather sucks when you’re stuck in it, with no end in sight. But when you choose to be here and can leave whenever you want, then it’s quite nice.
I’ve rarely hired coaches or instructors in the past. But doing so more and more lately. Today was lesson two with my snowboarding instructor. I watched a bunch of how-to videos on YouTube before I began, but there’s really no substitute to having one-on-one help, someone pointing out where you’re going wrong and what you need to fix. Saves a ton of time and frustration.
Another call with a coach today. Powerful again. There are two levels to this for me. One is obviously improving my own situation, reaching my own goals. But I also find it fascinating to observe how great coaches operate. I recognized some of the techniques he was using today, except they didn’t feel like techniques. He’d internalized them, and deployed only as appropriate.
Someone asked me today how things are going, and because a few little things didn’t flow easy this afternoon I almost replied in the negative. Had to remind myself that I’m a year deep into an amazing relationship, I’ve earned more money this month than any previous, and I’m here in Bulgaria snowboarding twice a week just for kicks. How are things going? Never better.
Third day on the board, felt like I was actually doing it today instead of trying not to fall the whole time. I’m through that first pain period, and it feels good. Took those tight boots off at the rental shop, got me a fancy baked potato at a street stall, and walked home along thems icy streets with Frank and Louis in my ears.
Without practice, you can’t expect to be good at something, for it to feel natural. That’s why many people get so nervous in job interviews, or why many guys fall to pieces talking to a pretty girl. They don’t practice those things regularly. One thing I’ve been practicing is describing the work I do, and how much I charge for it. So when the dentist asked me today, it came out natural.
Spent some time this afternoon thinking and writing about my dream clients. Who would I most like to work with? Who am I best suited to serve? Fairly confident that I have the skills, the experience, and the motivation to do great work with the right people. First I have to know what those people look like, so I’ll recognize them when they cross my path.
There’s a nice little family-run restaurant downstairs from us. We’re regulars there now. Nice people. Funny thing is, the parents, probably in their early fifties, don’t know how to work the card machine. If their son isn’t there, we have to pay cash. I wonder if they can’t learn how to use that machine, or just don’t want to.
Big boy slopes now. Best day yet on the board, up in the snowcaps. Still hesitant in places but getting more into the flow of it. Amazing how much of this is psychological though. I see guys going steeper and faster than me, and their movements aren’t anything special. Mostly, their minds are different. Their fear has been trained away.
Been reading that book by Sinek, which is way too long for the point he’s making but it does help me put a finger on my WHY. And it’s simple: freedom. That’s what I’m always striving for myself. Freedom of mind, freedom of body, freedom of action. And it’s what I aim to help other people achieve with 3M1K. Freedom from traditional employment, so they can live life on their own terms.
We rang in the new year on a beach in Gran Canaria, and a month later we’re in the mountains of Bulgaria. We quit coffee and I learned how to snowboard. I coached a bunch of people and got some great coaching myself. I earned close to $10k and spent more than I’m comfortable with. Overall, it’s been a great month, but also a long one. I’ll appreciate it more after a solid night’s sleep.
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